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Is Social Media Losing It's Way?

Social media has been getting super interesting lately.

I used to use Twitter all the time and it was an amazing place to engage with users and chat it up.  Then automation started getting bigger and bigger, and now all I’ve seen recently is motivation quotes and random links.  I’m 100% guilty of this myself, but it just seems weird that the social element is starting to slowly fade…

I switched over to FaceBook and thought to myself, I could start engaging a little more.  I friended a bunch of people (there was a strategy to that that I’ll get into in a bit), and I joined a bunch of groups.

Now here’s the thing, I love groups.  I think it’s a great way to chat it up, share ideas, get some help, etc., but things are starting to look a little grim.

Why do I say that?

There are a few reasons.  First, groups are starting to turn into some hardcore support forums.  Second, omg rules, rules, and more rules. Third, the fake entitled police members who basically just troll.

Support Forums

I get that it’s super easy to ask questions to a bunch of like-minded individuals.  Easy to get an answer, right.  But add 2000 people who aren’t really comfortable or experienced to build something, then all of a sudden, groups are flooded with “How do I…,” “What plugin should I…,” “What’s the best way to…?” and post after post, they come in.

You ever hear that saying, “Give a man a fish, he’ll eat for a day.  Teach a man to fish, he’ll eat forever.”  I’m not trying to bash anyone, but figuring things out by researching, googling, etc., instead of having someone just answer the question for you, is an incredible way to excel at your craft.

Seriously.  When I was starting out, no one had answers.  It was all research.  Googling for hours, piecing things together, figuring it out.  Then once it was learned it was like this amazing sigh of relief and understanding.  “That’s how I do it! Yes!!” Then more and more practice, until you fully understood what you were doing.

I think people want to take the lazy way out.  I mean, I don’t blame them, time is money right?  But a lot of the people that want someone to just tell them, are the same people that aren’t willing to invest in other sources that will save them time and/or money.

Here’s an example: You’re struggling on a $2k website, and it’s taking you forever. You’re getting stuck on certain tasks because you either don’t know how to do them, or you’re just starting to gain experience.

If time is money, would you hire someone for a small job to get it done in a timely manner?  I don’t think many people even think of that as an option.  The first thing a lot of folks do is hop in a group, “How do I…”

Waiting for an answer while still trying to figure it out.  More time is wasted, more money is lost, hopefully, you got an answer that you can implement, but you don’t understand why it works, and it leads to more and more issues.

I’ve seen it countless times.  Please don’t get me wrong, though, it’s totally OK to ask for help.  I’ve been in some time crunches where I just need an answer, spare me the understanding crap!  But a lot of times it’s a common occurrence, so the second time around, I’m usually looking at what I did the first time, then Googling how variables inside functions work, or something like that.

I may have gone off in a tangent, but the whole point is, should these groups just continue being support forums?  In my opinion, I think one of the rules should be, keep support in the support channel.  Maybe it’s unpopular, but that’s just how I feel.


We all need rules, but a rule that I can’t stand but fully tolerate (to an extent), is ‘NO SELF PROMOTION‘.

C’mon admins, this is strictly for you.  I can see the reason for this in certain situations… an exclusive group to a program or membership, or possibly someone who created a group to exclusively sell themselves to the members.

Maybe a better rule would be no Sales Promotions?  

Having no self-promotion on an online forum just doesn’t make sense to me.  Everyone in the groups is running their business online.  A lot of these groups have thousands of people in the direct audience that your business speaks to!

Could you imagine going to a conference with 1000 people, who are all people you deal with on a daily basis, but when you walk in, the person running the conference says “Hey, I know you fit right in with this crowd, but do me a favor, don’t talk about yourself to anyone, or I’ll kick you out!”

What the whaat!?  That’s ludicrous to me.

I get the whole, no sales pitchy stuff, that makes sense, but “Hey I got this awesome article with this thing that I went through that I want to share with you guys cuz it totally makes sense but I’m not allowed to because I wrote it.”  is just going to start leading to  “Joe, do me a favor, go into this group and share this for me,” if it doesn’t happen already.

It’s just awkward that people don’t want you sharing your stuff;  your experience, your knowledge, that could ultimately, drive a group forward.

Please don’t come at me either with the whole, “Then the group will be filled with a bunch of spam!” Stop it with the spam crap.  The group will then be full of a bunch of amazing resources that relate to each and every member in the damn group!

Fake Group Police and people that call everything spam

Sometimes I like to share cool sh*t, completely unrelated, but just fun.  I did it once and OMG did the fake police reign down on me!

Listen, if the admins have a problem with something, they can address it, that’s their job.  If you don’t like something, or can’t relate to something, ask to be an admin then, and you’ll have all the control you want.

Taking some notes off of ElBenbo (Ben Settle) I just started having fun with it.  Don’t call my sh*t spam and not expect a reply from me! HAHA 😀

Bottom line is there are probably millions of groups that relate to what you want to promote.  Don’t go spamming groups with posts (you’ll start to alienate the audience as well if you do) but be a little strategic about it.

If you share something, and admin might get mad, delete the post, or just tell you something (Internet slap on the wrist, probably similar to a poke, but in a bad way), but be respectful.  Especially to the groups that you respect and want to be a part of.

So what do you think of this Social Fiasco that seems to trend more and more?
Share your thoughts in the comments.

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0 comments on Is Social Media Losing It's Way?

  1. Dave Bell says:

    I feel the same. I do not think FB grouups are really that good for support per se. Once in awhile I read something I can use, but not my first line of support.

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